Growth through fear

 

Teachers and often parents don’t take this so importantly to talk about how fear can play really key role in shaping the personality of the child. The only possible difference lies in the way fear is taught to be used. If used effectively often could become an empowering strategy to success through stepping outside that comfort zone that one only limits oneself time and again to. Fear when strategically used can just lead to exponential growth in mindset setting in motion changes right across the frame of your personality.

However using fear to control can have disastrous results. Over time gradual shrinking of one as the individual takes place leading to a hollow hull of one's personality alone remaining.

To be true to oneself the only way forward is to wade through one's fears growing through the learnings it helps one gain. Doing so makes one become more confident be yourself.

That fear only determines growth trajectories is an important fact to take note of!

My thoughts on cognitive diversity and its importance in today's world

 

The following is taken from my interview for Care4Autism.

https://care4autism.blogspot.com/2023/01/tarun-paul-mathew-17-years-old-is.html

 

My thoughts on cognitive diversity and its importance in today's world

 

Why the need for diversity?

 

Makes coping with hardships lot likely more possible. Things reach better ends if varying participant perspectives are included in all cases. The faster we reduce diversity, the sooner our hour of final tryst with our future survival as a species is reached. Having diversity ensures greater checking of things, keeping the hope of human survival high.

 

Why is Cognitive Diversity important?

 

Having different kinds of minds problem solving, only makes things easier. Prism simply brings out the actual beauty of totally mundane white light. The spectrum exists only because of the individual wavelengths of light. Each colour of the rainbow is beautiful in its unique way. Likewise, only when there are diverse minds in the world is the human rainbow complete.

 

How does cognitive diversity help?

 

Looking from varied personal outlooks aids better solutions that can be more helpful for growth in more people. More the number and variety of minds looking at a project, the wider the scope of the outcomes because of the complexities understood and considered.

 

How do we make acceptance of cognitive diversity a reality?

 

The thought that it is likely the biggest factor on which the entire human race is dependent on to survive, must necessarily be pressed into people's minds. Lessons we humans learn on evolution in school need to give impetus tomorrow to our actions if we hope to survive. By mobilising youth to acknowledge that differences are just part of life like any of the many things making your life beautiful and completely colourful.

 

How does this translate into inclusivity practices?

 

What has been observed most to have really made a difference has only been better knowledge of criteria that both could show how the person struggles as well as the area the person has potential in. Thinking is likely to have to be the most prominent place to begin the cleansing from. By changing attitudes, making inclusion happen becomes a far more realistic goal.

 

Interview with Padma Aunty

Sharing my interview responses for Padma aunty's blog 

1. How old are you? What are you studying?

 

I turned 17 this year though feel lot older. Just perhaps my thoughts. I would like to find great happiness through the nuanced balance between my still teenage thoughts and the older thinking.

Have completed my grade 9 and plan to keep on the attempt right in until I finish my grade 10.

 

2. Would you like to share a few details of your schooling, how you learned to adapt to the environment and friends, etc.

 

 

Yes. Initially school was only to have mechanisms to learn new things. I used to play a lot. Having many good teachers really helped me very much. They kindly treated me like my classmates. Yes. gave lot of encouragement of course really giving me more confidence. It quite felt overwhelming during games and appeared impossible many a time to manage lunch break too. Positively managed only because my teachers and classmates helped me. Great amount of socialisation is included in both situations. It can fester persisting anxiety and sensory overload has truly dreadful consequences. Proving I understand lot more than it appeared gave me the freedom to not be helpless most often totally helping in adapting to situations in school. Special mention to my classmates and teachers for all the special support for my schooling experience.

3. Please share a few details about your sensory world. What helps you to calm down and relax?

 

Mostly progress from very happy state going on to becoming lost minutes later.

Keep moving between diving into the water cold and the water full hot. Leaves me totally in helpless position. Lot of sensory experiences are painful.

Music only offers relaxation.

 

4. What is your all-time favourite and current favourite song and movie/book? Please share a poem you wrote recently.

 

All-time favourite song

 

Bohemian Rhapsody by Queen

Current favourite songs

 

Higher power by Coldplay

Faded by Alan Walker

Waiting for Love by Avicii

Paradise by Coldplay

 

All-time favourite book

 

 

The Boy at the Back of the Class by Onjali Q. Rauf

 

Current favourite book

 

 

The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time by Mark Haddon

 

Book reading presently

 

The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion

5. Please share a few details about your first annual day participation in school. What did you perform? How did you feel?

 

That was perhaps one of my happiest experiences in school. I took part in the Japanese lantern dance and had to go for practice daily to learn to time my steps perfectly together both with the other dancers and the music. Of course, it was panicky to have to do all this with sensorial overload that is part of such school programs. Much of this was overcome with singular effort from my teachers. The actual program really had me experience too much of flood of sensations. Observing my dance part later felt very fascinated. Like tango the lovely movements positively looked like flowing river. Possibly my best dance performance to this day. Pleasing effort.

 

6. Please tell us about your passion for music. What instrument do you play? When did you start learning to play?

 

Music is one of the things in life that makes it all worthwhile. Better friend one may never have. Time loses importance when music becomes bigger. I am happy listening to music night and day.

 

 

7. Please share a few details about the Spellibrity contest.

 

Important milestone that helped me to really gather the confidence to engage with the world on my terms. You are treated much more respectfully.

I liked the way they personified us into the different categories. I particularly liked my humanitarian label. Because it tells people absolute truth about me. 

 

8. Do you remember the first word/sentence you communicated by typing? How did it feel?

 

Yes

 

Only my name.

 

It felt great, touched my lonely being, completely liberating mechanism.

 

9. Please share a few details about how your learning to communicate progressed and what/who helped the most?

 

Priya miss opened important doors for me. She freed me from the prison I was trapped in - a silent totally lonely place.

 10. You were close to your grandparents; how did you feel and cope with their loss...

 

There happened to not be anybody else that accepted my differences as my grandparents. There clearly was an unspoken connection with them. Of course I felt very sad to lose them. Many times, miss them. In my memories they stay with me always.

 

11. Would you like to share your future plans with us?

 

In the future my wish is to probably both learn and dance to music that is found only in math. My every effort to specifically be a voice for other non-speaking autistics always. 

 

1    12. Would you like to share details about your short story on inclusion.

 

The story was about standing up to bullying. Have not been bullied but know very well how difficult and scary to be bullied can feel.

 

1    13. How was the experience of writing for the book - Talking Fingers?

 

The full experience felt great mainly because of the opportunity to collaborate with my clan of non-speaking autistics from my country. People got to hear us. That gave me the motivation to push the body the maximum.

Life goals

 Looking simply at life 

People endlessly racing towards pointless goals

Looking for happiness outside.

Having  lot of money yet only wanting more.

You keep working though there are people you really love 

Who may need you much more.

Teens

                    Teens

 

Wills of sterling silver that greatly shine

Through experiences all not so fine.

Waiting in the shadows that cloud 

The silence before adulthood is found.

 

Nothing possibly gives more confidence

Yet regularly exacts greater learning.

Interest amounts, heading off into silence

Meaning to life learned only in this testing time in life.

 

The sea of life, daring in that hindsight

Gathering strength until adulthood approaches life tomorrow bright.

Roads lay many, to take or to not to follow

Kindness perhaps lessens grave teen sorrow.

 

Understand the inner poetry of youth

Terms of interactions have passed on

Like homeless learning their truth

Parents treat your teens with plenty of love and care.

Mom, Amma......

 Mom

Preferred person, multiplier.

Having many talents.

Like perfect laugh I most gain immensely from.

Plight, much young looking.

I move morning and night greatly because of mom.

Over

Mother - Is this poem about amma?

Me - Yes

Mother - So you are saying all this is true about amma?

Me - Yes

Mother - You have described me as a multiplier. In what sense?

Me - Of people in life, the love.

Mother - Whose life?

Me - My life

Mother - Please explain 'the love'

Me - Love flowing into my life.